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Keep the mess in Christmas

December 24, 2013 · Filed Under: faith · Tagged With: christmas

Christian children all must be
Mild, obedient, good as He.”
– From Once in Royal David’s City,
text by Cecil Alexander.

Something tells me that Jesus’ birth and childhood were not the model of calm that this Victorian carol would have us believe. The one thing we know about his childhood is that he gave his parents a terrible fright by going to the temple in Jerusalem. We know that his parents were put in a social predicament by his miraculous origins.

Which is to say that we make a mistake if we assume that the purpose of the Incarnation, and our celebration of it, is to tie everything up in a neat little bow. God’s Son did not become human so that we could be mild and obedient children. To be placid is not the same as being holy. There are no easy ways to holiness, just as there was no easy way to the Resurrection.

We still crave the easy sanctity: if we all just said “Merry Christmas” instead of “Happy Holidays”, then something we can’t quite name would be repaired in us. If we draw clear boundaries of who is and who is out of God’s favor we could reduce salvation to a set of check boxes, all simplicity and no mystery.

I for one can’t help myself, and want to dive into the mystery. God became human, forever validating what we are and what we suffer. He was born out in a barn surrounded by stinky animals, the sky exploded with singing angels and unexplained stars while shepherds looked up, befuddled, and gentile sorcerers took a hike. He suffered diaper rash and teething, his voice changed when he was a teenager and he annoyed his parents from time to time.

God did this, and it made a glorious mess. It still makes messes of our lives, when we can no longer follow the prescriptions of the world and realize we have to go where God leads us.

The peace that I have found in Christ is the peace of knowing that I am participating in God’s will for me. It is not the same as getting what I want all the time, or having everything figured out. In fact, sometimes it flies in the face of those very human desires for neatness and explanation.

So this Christmas I am embracing the mess. I will not lament another year of not understanding what God is working in my life. I will not be perturbed by the chaos of my schedule, of travel and balancing obligations. I can do this with confidence knowing that not only did God stir the pot a little bit by coming into the world, but God also redeemed the confusion by entering into it.

Have a merry, blessed, messy Christmas.
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  1. Holly says

    December 24, 2013 at 7:02 am

    Thank-you Meg. I needed to read this today.
    Holly

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 7:15 am

      Thanks for your note, Holly. Have a wonderful holiday!

      Reply
  2. Maria Evans says

    December 24, 2013 at 8:05 am

    I often pointed out to my pupils that if Jesus was asked to fetch soma water from the well, he wouldn’t always say “Yes, of course.mit would be a pleasure.” Sometimes he would have said “Aw, do I have to? Can’t my Dad go instead?” If he didn’t he wasn’t human.

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:22 am

      Very well put! It’s so important not to gloss over the messy truth of humanity, if we believe Jesus was truly human. To have been a fly on the wall during that argument…

      Reply
  3. Jim Kane says

    December 24, 2013 at 9:08 am

    Well said Margaret! A wonderful post. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

    Jim

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:20 am

      Thanks Jim! Merry Christmas to you as well.

      Reply
  4. Jeanne says

    December 24, 2013 at 9:15 am

    Meg… Beautifully written what a great thing to read as I begin this day!

    Merry Christmas!
    Jeanne

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:20 am

      Thanks love! Merry Christmas to you and birthday greetings to your wonderful husband.

      Reply
    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:21 am

      Ooops. Thought this was from a different Jeanne. The birthday greetings may not be applicable but the Christmas wishes remain! xoxox.

      Reply
  5. FrankR says

    December 24, 2013 at 10:24 am

    Merry Christmas Margaret…. to you and yours !

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:18 am

      Thank you Frank. Merry Christmas!

      Reply
  6. Mark Allman says

    December 24, 2013 at 12:01 pm

    Merry Christmas!!

    Reply
    • Margaret Felice says

      December 27, 2013 at 8:43 am

      Thank you so much, Mark. I hope you had a wonderful holiday and are continuing to enjoy this Christmas season!

      Reply
  7. Don Kolenda says

    December 24, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    God is “messing” with my preconceived ideas about who He is and how I look upon the profound mystery of the Incarnation. He is challenging me to let go! – and just allow Him to love me in my messiness. Since He took on that messiness so fully, I can let go of my petty selfish, fearful, sinful, self-centeredness mess. I can relax and let Him love me. Then, I am free to love the messes in others, the way He loves me! I can desire to show them the same love and understanding He showed me. In this way some of their messes can be cleaned up, too!

    Merry Christmas to you and yours, Margaret!

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    • Margaret Felice says

      December 27, 2013 at 8:42 am

      Amen, Don! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

      Reply

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